“the sender lumps all Asian women into this gold-digging stereotype while simultaneously admitting his fetish and trying to portray himself as a victim of Asian women’s disinterest, as if the idea that their disinterest has less to do with his (presumed) financial situation and more to do with the fact that he’s an ignorant white dude with a bad case of ‘yellow fever’.”
In my year or so spent running this blog, I’ve seen a recurring theme of Creepy White Guys feeling the need to insult and put down Asian men (often in a pathetic effort to appeal to Asian women). The following reader submission is from a non-Asian girl, who nonetheless received a message from a Creepy White Guy hellbent on spreading racist propaganda about Asian men. As she put it:
“I’m not asian, and I put on my dating profile, that I think asian men are attractive, and got this “concerned” father.”
Apparently it’s not enough for Creepy White Guys to fetishize Asian women, they also do everything they can to enforce an anti-miscegenation ideology that holds that men of color cannot be with white women.
“I’m no girl. But creepy white guys are everywhere. Attached file is my conversation with him.
This guy has a Thai girlfriend and she isn’t having sex with him anymore. So he contacts me and gets straight into it. He talks about his involvement in the Vietnamese community. He then says he doesn’t like “Australian” men and women. He likes “Asian” men and women. I told him I’m Australian too and he replies “u ain’t asian?” I think I rolled my eyes at this point.”
Reader submission, this woman noted in her OkCupid profile that she had recently come from China and her English is poor. This Creepy White Guy has probably had one semester of Chinese, and messaged her a mostly Google translated message, translation is as follows:
"In my dreams / fantasies, I will kill all Chinese men, and then all Chinese women can enjoy Western men like me. Think about it, letting those ugly annoying Chinese men (sic) death, the world only has beautiful Chinese women and rich (sic) super Western men, isn’t that (sic) very perfect?"
Once again, there is nothing uglier or more annoying than the twisted racist minds of Creepy White Guys, and their insecure obsession with both objectifying Asian women and insulting Asian men.
Let me just say that I think Amy Chua is a full fledged Asian minstrel show. With her “Tiger Mother” book, she was playing to the numerous dragon lady and harsh Asian parent stereotypes of Asian Americans that the media has enforced over the years, and why not? Do you think a non-racist book about Asians that doesn’t tread in stereotypes would have made Amy Chua a best-selling author? Amy Chua was practically falling over herself to behave as stereotypically as possible, so that she could sell books to white people. She was practically one step away from putting on a kimono and an inexplicable straw hat, and running around saying “you rikee me beat my daughter?! I beat my daughter for you if you rikee, Mr. White Man!”
And now this. This insane piece of crap book. I am almost convinced that Amy Chua is a white person dressed in yellowface. Seriously, are we sure that Amy Chua isn’t actually one of the benchwarmer pundits on Fox News, caked in tons of Orientalist makeup?
On the off chance that you are reading this, Amy Chua, let me just say that as a Chinese American woman, you do not speak for me. In fact, what you are doing is INCREDIBLY HARMFUL to the Chinese American and Asian American community. In your first book, you claimed to be speaking for all Chinese mothers. Let me ask you, how many Chinese mothers do you interact with, during your typical week in New Haven? How many of these Chinese mothers work as clerks at the local Asian grocery, or at an Asian hair salon? For that matter, when was the last time you were even in an Asian grocery or hair salon? Or are you too busy shopping at Whole Foods and getting your hair done at Aveda to go where the “low class” Asians congregate?
See, the thing is, Amy, there are millions of Chinese Americans who aren’t law professors, and who don’t live in the plush suburbs of New Haven. Many of them are scraping by, working in restaurants, laundromats, grocery stores, sometimes even collecting trash in the park. When you write about the stereotypical Chinese American overachievers, you’re completely neglecting those Chinese Americans you would conveniently rather forget about. You’re perpetuating a Model Minority myth that has resulted in funding for programs for less privileged Chinese Americans (educational funding, community services) being cut. And for what? So you can feel a bit of narcissistic glee at your Yale cocktail parties, when priviliged white people tell you how successful your race is?
In case you dismiss me as someone from a lower social class who is jealous of your success, Amy, let me just say that my childhood was not unlike that of your own children (except my mother wasn’t a sociopathic bitch). My parents were both professors who emigrated to America to get their PhD, much of my childhood was spent at academic summer camps and after school enrichment programs, and since then I’ve graduated with an Ivy League education and have been a part of two successful tech startups. However, unlike you, I haven’t forgotten where I come from and who I am. Unlike you, who claim to speak for all Chinese women and yet cannot even speak Mandarin, I am fluent in both Mandarin and Cantonese, and am able and willing to actually converse with the women working in Ranch 99, the local hair salon, and even the elderly Chinese woman picking up recycling in the park. Instead of playing up my Chinese ethnicity as a cheap ploy to sell books, I volunteer to help the less fortunate in our community, participate in Chinese cultural events (something which it seems as if your daughters never got the chance to do, in spite of their oh-so-Chinese “Tiger Mother”), and eat my Chinese food at dingy places that serve chicken feet. If the mention of chicken feet repulsed you, Amy, don’t worry, I’m sure you can go back to having lettuce wraps in a clean and elegant P.F. Chang’s with Dr. Rubenfeld. I guess what I’m saying, Amy, is that you don’t speak for all Chinese mothers, and are in fact barely Chinese. Hell, when was the last time you even went to a Ranch 99? Do you even know what a Ranch 99 is? I mean, I know some Latinos, black people, and white people who shop at Ranch 99 every day, and in my book they’re all more Chinese than you are Amy!
And now, Mrs. Chua, you’ve moved on from damaging the Chinese-American community, and have written a book preaching some sort of racial and cultural hierarchy. According to you, the special groups at the top of this hierarchy are: Jews, Indians, Chinese, Iranians, Lebanese, Nigerians, Cuban exiles, and Mormons. Apparently all other groups are somehow racially or culturally inferior. Amy, allow me to add to your thesis, by responding with my list of the groups that are the MOST inferior:
a) terrible, narcissistic Asian-American law school professors who write savagely racist books
b) anyone unlucky enough to be married to people like the person described in part a), and who willingly participates in their racist projects
In conclusion, Amy Chua, you are like the Asian version of the self-hating slave portrayed by Samuel L. Jackson in Django Unchained. At this rate, the Asian-American community should just go ahead and adopt the expression “Auntie Amy” as a pejorative for all self-hating Asians. I have not been this ashamed of someone of my ethnicity since William Hung. Actually, William Hung wasn’t even half as awful as you are. William Hung managed to be offensive to Asians, but at least he didn’t offend anyone else. Plus he didn’t look like an elderly white man wearing yellowface makeup. Please go fuck yourself. To be more Chinese about it: 操你这个老虎妈.
And if you don’t like any of what I just said, maybe you can use your magical tiger mom powers to burn all my stuffed animals, or take away my dollhouse, or make me practice piano until my fingers bleed. Right after your dinner reservation at PF Chang’s, of course!
(Thanks to fans of this tumblr who pointed out some of the inappropriate language in the original version of this post, I truly apologize and have since taken it out)
"Please gracious white guy, do tell me more about how you’ve been to China and know about “authentic” Chinese food and tell me how about Chinese food is in the states. It’s so great that you’re “big” on Asian culture (read: fetishizing and appropriating our culture, natch).”